Would you rather be extremely successful professionally and have a tolerable yet unexciting private life, or have an extremely happy private life and only a tolerable and uninspiring professional life?
I want to be successful, but I think I’d be better with a happy private life. I think I’d be more happy that way rather than being ultra-successful but no one to really share that with. A good life at home makes the lackluster job more tolerable, I guess.
Would you accept twenty years of extraordinary happiness and fulfillment if it meant you would die at the end of the period?
Nah! Being happy is cool, but I also think that if you’re going to be happy all the time, you kind of miss out on important life lessons, you know? I want to experience the good and the bad, come out of it all, and then really be happy.
Do you feel you have enough time? If not, what would give you that feeling? How much has your attitude about time changed as you’ve aged?
I do, actually. I think our lives are longer than what we think and the whole idea that we have to rush and accomplish things by a certain age is preposterous. And, yeah, I know that tomorrow’s never really promised, but living in the moment (as cliché as that sounds) makes life more fulfilling. I think that, as I get older, time is all relative to me. I’m not worried about it at all. I’m more worried about being in touch with who I am at this point in my life and being there for the people I care about.
Do you feel you have much impact on the lives of people you come in contact with? Can you think of someone who, over a short period of time, significantly influenced your life?
I’d like to think I do, but to be honest, I probably don’t impact a lot of people. I just kind of tell it how it is, but from my own perspective and don’t really count on people to agree with me.
I learned a lot from my trip to China last year. I know that I mention that trip a lot, but I met so many wonderful people in Beijing who seriously changed and renewed so much of what I thought I knew about the world.
Do you think we’re all running out of time?
This blog series takes and answers questions from The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, PhD.