Do your close friends tend to be older or younger than you?
Most of my closest friends are around my age, give or take, a year older or a year younger. My best friend is about a year younger than me, well eight-months younger.
A good friend pulls off a well-conceived practical joke that plays on one of your foibles and makes you look ridiculous. How would you react?
I would probably flip sh*t! But at the same time, knowing my friends, they’d probably do something like that to make me realize that “it’s not that serious.” I think we all really try to bring out the best in us and help each other overcome our insecurities. Because, you know, that’s what grown-up friendships are. D’awww.
How forgiving are you when your friends let you down?
So you can understand my thoughts on this, I have to add some context to why I feel the way that I do. I had a really
horrible annoying thing happen to me in middle school where these girls, who I thought were my “friends,” tried to blame something on me that I didn’t do. Basically, it was like Mean Girls. Someone had a burn book — online on Asian Avenue, mind you — and said that I’d been the one who posted all of these malicious comments about people I knew. Apparently someone said I was online on AIM the same time this person was on Asian Avenue [hahaha] but the only problem with that was we didn’t have internet at our house back then. They literally, verbally attacked me in the school cafeteria with print-outs of this page I never even knew of and a photo of me posted on that page, which the photo was taken from the yearbook and if it really was me, I would’ve chosen a cuter one TBH. Anyways…
The school personnel ended up finding out who really did it, they told me who it was, and I never told anyone else. I figured that the person who did this had something else going on with them, that they needed to just grow up and realize what they did was wrong. I’m thinking that after all of these years, she did do just that. From the outside looking in I can tell she grew up to be a really good person, seeing the kind of work that she does.
To this day though, I don’t associate with most of those girls. I see some of them every now and then, and I’ve actually become civil with at least one of them who apologized to me in high school. In that sense, I guess I’m just not a very forgiving person unless someone admits their wrongs or we have a decent conversation about our sides of the story. I’ve learned to just let people go if they’ve done something to lose my trust.
What are some of your thoughts on friendship?
This blog series takes and answers questions from The Book of Questions by Gregory Stock, PhD.